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ROBIN BYRD!

I always wanted to a Robin Byrd Show fashion story.


You can still catch episodes of Robin’s sexy show on Manhattan public access (channel 35). It’s listed as THE ROBIN BYRD SHOW.
SHE’S A LEGEND!

Some Other Amazing Banners…






I MEAN…

I’m taking a remedial high school art class for fuck-ups and retards.

A giant glass of milk!

“Now we’re the newest members of the general population!”

You guys down for some reggae?

Ghost World is one of my favorite movies of all time.

And yet another new banner by…

Only my all time revolutionary girl hero: Miss Kathleen Hanna.

Big ups sister!

(I’ll be posting more amazing ones later, but come on…you know I gotta let this one flap in the wind for a while. It’s too late for me to post them now anyway. Gotta get back to my page-turning book, Weekends At Bellvue.)

swatch dogs and diet coke heads

Okay so I’m feeling super over saturated lately. Like a cool overload has hit me like a tsunami and I’m suddenly drowning in a sea of blogs and nostalgia and it girls and underground girls and new sneakers and new shoes and white cat eye sunglasses that I really really want.

Suddenly the more I consume mentally, the less choices I have because I can’t make a decision when every fucking thing becomes a goddamn statement.

Like if I get white cat eye sunglasses, do they “mean” something? I don’t want them to but I don’t think I can help it. Also I know it doesn’t matter and who gives a shit anyway?

I realized that I have a lot of insecurity when it comes to what people think of me, and not strangers, but my friends. Like if I do something wrong my friends will judge me. Even if I don’t think it’s wrong. Even if I don’t believe in wrong.
Just because I don’t believe it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist (in someone else’s reality).

Maybe I’m all talk anyway. Maybe I do believe in right and wrong. Maybe I’m my own worst judge.

When I feel good about myself and when things are going well, there’s this gravitational pull that wants to snap me outta the good feelings. I have a magnetic field that lives inside me. It wants my endorphins to not float up to my brain but rather strap me down and hang out there like a prisoner forever.

I get scared that if I act happy and talk about good things, the jinxy gods will hear me and strike me dead.

What helps this pull from happening is the feeling of alignment I get when I’m connected to certain people. Friends and colleagues and loves and best friends and even acquaintances and maybe even a stranger or two sometimes.

I feel that connection most when I am NOT swallowed by “oh my god do they all hate me” or “oh my god is she mad at me”
or “am i doing it wrong?”
or “what if i’m not good enough?’
what if i’m not pretty enough?
what if he doesn’t love me enough?
what if she’s judging me?
what if what if what if. enough!

I feel that connection most when I am trying to be of service to the people around me. Not “putting them first” but rather putting myself first so I can be more useful as a person in this world. I can be a useful friend. I can be a useful girlfriend. I can be a useful worker among all the other useful workers.
I can make the life runway clear so that planes can take off.

And people will judge me regardless of what I’m doing or how I feel. There’s always gonna be someone who hates. Who is jealous. Who talks shit. Who makes fun. There are bullies everywhere in every playground no matter how old you are.

You just say so fucking what? Keep it moving.

This is pretty unstoppable

(via Kathleen’s blog)

Props to Santigold.

Banner Submission #2

Someone named “Diiet Pepsi” made this!

If you have to ask…

I am turning 31 on Monday, but today I wore a baby barrette in my hair.
I’m afraid to ask
because I know that if I have to ask
it probably means that

yes. I am getting too old to wear baby barrettes.

she’s the joanest jett around

I’m super into girls who write graffiti lately. Kind of obsessed. I’m not claiming to know a lot about the subject (yet) but these girls are legends and also pretty fuckin punk.

Loving these photos from Aurel’s Pussy book…

This chick just got outta jail. She’s cute and has a blog and there’s an interview with her here.


And these two are the end all be all in mine eyes…


Claw is basically the new Hello Kitty. She has a published book and a fashion line too.
But 17…who knows what happened to her. She’s like a ghost or a fairy tale.





Banner Contestant #1

This is from a girl named Mo, and it’s AMAZING!

HELP ME? (a contest)

Look at the top of the blog and see where it says “Cafe Con Lesley”? Well, it’s ugly and boring and I wanna change it.
The problem is I don’t have photoshop, skills, or want, to make a pretty banner.

CAN YOU HELP ME?

Let’s call it a banner contest! Please send me some banners and if you win, obviously it will live on my blog for all the world to see, but also I will interview you AND send you a mix cd.

Not enough? Um… what else can I give you? I don’t know. Sometimes people just do these things for fun. Maybe you’re a graphic design person and can whip this kinda thing up in minutes.

Anyway, please help me make my blog a better looking place.

(ps blingee inspires me.)

I Started A Side Project Blog

Adjust your peepers! Check out my new side gig.
It’s a blog about people who like REALLY don’t go out that much.

Sometimes we all need a break from the nightlife and the boogie, so hopefully this blog will inspire you with some ideas on how to spend your alone time.

It’s called I Never Go Out.

ENJOY!

I must be hungry…

I eat your hate like love.

I haven’t been writing that much personal stuff lately because I’m too close to it. I’m like a wad of gum stuck in my own hair.

Mmmmmm… gum.

On another note, I’m really into my new JEGGINGS. They look like jeans but they act like leggings!! My clogs are very right now too.


(dress, ysl. jeggings, h&m. clogs, atomic passion).

Dancing In Heaven, I Never Thought I’d Get My Feet This Far

Technique is in our fingers…

I used to let you wear all of my clothes…

Meet me at the bottom of the bottomless blue pool…

Third And Delaware

My sister showed me this amazing website. It’s all about the fashion from the TV show ROSEANNE.






You Just have to see the site. It’s one of my favorite things in the whole wide world.

FIST FIGHT IN THE PARKING LOT!!!

I GOT MORE MENTAL FANS THAN METAL BANDS WITH PENTAGRAMS

I’M SHINING LIKE A NEON SIGN ON A DINER HOMIE

(thanks veeva)